In many ways, professed Christians who are suffering from relationship problems are under greater scrutiny and pressure to make their marriage work. The biblical passage pertaining to marriage about letting no man put asunder what God has put together can often become a Damocles’ sword hanging over your heads. Plus, there is this unspoken fact of life that both non-believers and fellow Christians expect the union to last until your deaths simply because your Christian faith demands it.
However, you should not let said scrutiny and pressure add another dimension to your already troubled marriage. You are grappling with far more serious issues than other people’s expectations so try not to be too bothered by them. Instead, you should focus on the things that will make your marriage stronger.
Look for Biblical Guidance
Your marriage was founded on your Christian faith. In your times of marital troubles, it is the Bible that you must look to first and foremost for guidance. Yes, indeed, the Bible has the answers to your questions if only you will listen and understand its teachings about relationships.
You can turn to 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 for your first guiding words. This is the part where we are taught about the meaning of love – it is patient and kind, it is not envious and proud, it does not boast, it is not rude and selfish, it is slow to anger and it keeps no record of past misdeeds.
However, keep in mind that Christian love between a man and a woman is not simply an abstract concept. It is a concrete manifestation of all the abstract ideas – you practice patience, you do kind things and you rejoice in the other person. Indeed, for Christians, love is only fully love when it is translated into action.
Keep all these guidance from the Bible in mind and you will find the will to change as a couple. Indeed, both of you must change for your marriage to work for it does take two to tango.
And it definitely helps to make Jesus Christ the center of your marriage again. You may have deviated from the path you have set for yourselves at the beginning of your relationship – you are only human, after all – so you need to find that path again.
Look for Christian Marriage Counseling
You can either tackle your marital problems on your own with the help of the Bible, family and friends or you can go for Christian marriage counseling or you can do both. Christian marriage counseling adds another dimension to your efforts to save your marriage simply because you will be provided with a more objective view of the issues at hand.
Your pastor is the best person to go to for Christian marriage counseling. Although professional marriage counselors have the competent skills to guide you through the paces, you will miss the Christian angle. Your pastor will provide the much-needed Christian view on the matter.
With both your willingness to make your Christian marriage work and your pastor’s counseling and Biblical guidance, you should be able to save your relationship. You will love being given a second chance for indeed Christianity is about giving your man and yourself second and third and so on and so forth chances at marital bliss.